Oh instincts are misleading. You shouldn't think what you're feeling. They don't tell you what you know you should want.

That's a line from Lightness by Death Cab for Cutie. It reminds me of a line from a matchbox twenty song:

everybody's trusting in their hearts like their hearts don't lie.

I try to keep these lines in my mind as I find myself being swayed by irrational thoughts. Like the thought that grand romantic endeavors are always good. Like your old love showing up at your door with flowers and a speech about how he never should have let you go. A romantic idea but then what happens afterwards? What happens next week when you realize that the things that drove the two of you apart are still there? And then you have to ask yourself if you want this because you have dreamed about it every night for the past 6 months or because it's really the right thing for you. My brother and his girlfriend broke up and then they had a grand reunion. He asked me before it happened, when he was planning his course of action, 'what happens after the fairy tale?' I told him that you live with it. Don't let your fairy tale be something you can't live with.

sometimes our hearts lie, and that's hard to remember.